10 Questions That Polite People Just Don’t Ask

Here are ten questions that polite people typically avoid asking, as they can be intrusive, uncomfortable, or inappropriate:

1. "How much money do you make?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Discussing someone’s income is often considered private, and asking about it can come across as nosy or judgmental.

2. "Why are you still single?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: This question can imply that being single is a problem or that there’s something wrong with the person, which can be hurtful or awkward.

3. "When are you having kids?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: This can be a sensitive topic for many reasons, including fertility issues, personal choice, or timing. It’s a deeply personal matter that shouldn’t be pressured.

4. "How much did that cost?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Asking the price of someone’s belongings can be seen as tacky or invasive, and can put the person in an uncomfortable position.

5. "Have you gained (or lost) weight?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Commenting on someone’s weight can be very personal and potentially hurtful, even if well-intentioned. It’s better to avoid discussing someone’s body unless they bring it up.

6. "How old are you?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Age can be a sensitive topic, especially for older individuals who may feel uncomfortable revealing it.

7. "Why don’t you drink (or eat that)?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: This can put someone on the spot, especially if their reasons are personal, such as health issues, dietary restrictions, or religious beliefs.

8. "Why did you break up (or get divorced)?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Relationship issues are private, and asking about a breakup or divorce can bring up painful emotions or memories.

9. "Are you pregnant?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Unless someone explicitly shares that they are pregnant, asking this question can be very awkward, especially if they aren’t. It can also be sensitive for those dealing with fertility issues.

10. "What’s your religion (or political affiliation)?"

  • Why It’s Impolite: Religion and politics are often deeply personal and can lead to uncomfortable or divisive conversations, so it’s best to avoid asking unless you’re in a context where it’s appropriate to discuss.

Being mindful of these questions helps maintain respectful and considerate interactions with others.